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December 20, 2008

Everyone Else is Doing It

Filed under: New Year's Resolutions — Tags: , , , — Administrator @ 11:54 am

The idea that we might miss out on something everyone else is benefiting from is enough to get us to participate in any number of “opportunities”. There is benefit to having a specific time of the year when making resolutions is normal; we can talk about them with friends and family (see yesterday’s Blog), but the down side comes from bringing out our “me too” tendency.

When we “join in” because it seems like the thing to do, we miss out on the benefit of real commitment. A friend of mine explained to me that one of the best ways to move a human being from simply being comfortable to getting something done is to secure their commitment.
When we make a New Year’s Resolution (NYR), chances are it will take us out of our comfort zone for some period of time, which requires a firm and solid commitment. Coming up with your NYR while out partying with a group of friends won’t feel like an actual commitment. We say it, we don’t really mean it, and 10 to 30 day’s later we can’t even remember what it was.

We might make New Year’s Resolutions so we don’t feel left out, but this contributes the NYR mortality rate.

December 18, 2008

Because We Can . . .

One reason we make New Year’s Resolutions (NYR’s) is because it is the one time of year its considered normal, expected even, to share our personal growth or “greater good” goals with other people.
Not only are we encouraged to make NYR’s, but it’s the only time of year that we are regularly invited to talk about them. When we hit the middle of July, who in your circle of friends or family is asking about your goals for the upcoming fall season?
The idea that we are able to openly talk about these things hits a compelling nerve. Do you have goals you are proud of and have even the slightest chance of achieving? That’s just begging for a conversation with anyone who might be willing to listen.

We make them because we can . . . . . share them.

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